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Friend, I Am Here For You

Rebecca Paxman

Friend, I Am Here For You

I am on here today to say that, friend, I am here for you. I know that majority of you have been a victim in some way. The amount of survivors that have come forward to me have been immensely humbling. Some have spoken out to their family and friends with me by their side about what they've gone through. Some have asked me to hold on to their trials as they are not quite ready or able to admit what they have gone through.  Both are okay.  Your story doesn't even need to be posted on the blog- as I don't...


Harder days to come

Rebecca Paxman

I have had quite a few people messaging me asking me how I live my life with all that I have been through. I always say, “Don’t get me wrong, it’s really hard to continue sometimes. I still have bad days.“ And that is the truth! I hope you all see that I am not perfect on Instagram and Facebook. I have worked hard to have the mental state that I have. I’m talking 10 days in a psych hospital, thousands of hours of therapy with several different therapist, and that includes group therapy. I’m on three different types of...


Hello again

Rebecca Paxman

Hello again

Well it’s been a long time since the last blog post, so I wanted to express a bit of my feelings. I hope you all know how important you are. Especially during the hard times. I know how hard that is to hear in dark times, it sounds like a broken record. But I truly mean it! It’s really hard coming forward about your abuse! I came forward almost a year ago... and I had the biggest panic attack sharing something so personal and scary. I don’t know why I did it over Instagram. I know my therapist suggested being...


I believed it was all my fault

Rebecca Paxman

I know a lot of you wonderful women are hitting my DMs. And I just want to say sorry for the scare but thank you for your kind words. I had a REALLY hard day yesterday. And I wanted to share with you the reality of what I have to deal with on the reg. It’s so freakin hard being so forward and honest. I get panic attacks and take things down so quickly. So much had popped up financially and then as well as trigger wise. Yesterday, I was blamed for my rape by someone close to my heart....


A not so positive blog post

Rebecca Paxman

First thing first, I promise I’m getting somewhere with this post so read everything. I really wanted this to be a fully positive blog post, but right now I’m anything but positive. I’m sick, tired, hungry, and poor. I’ve literally put everything I have into Havenly. But sometimes, today especially, I get down right discouraged. I try my hardest to put a positive face on and tell you guys how happy and strong I am. I know I’m not the only one with a mental illnesses. Truth is, I have depression, ptsd, and anxiety all rolled into one. I was...

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